THE SECRET TO GOAL GETTING

There have been GOALS I wanted in my life:  To get a Ph. D, to compete in Triathlons, to direct films and be in Film Festivals and to write a book.  I have a silent roaring ambition. I select a goal and then I go for it and I keep moving until I get it or I decide, I do not really want this goal.
 
As I typed this bold title I thought “Hmm, that’s pretty audacious to claim that people can meet their goals every time – and you know the secret.  And then a little small voice inside me said “But, I do know…”
So do you want to know too so you can get what you most desire and be happy.
It’s taken me a lifetime to crack this code but I am willing to share it with you …are you ready to hear it?

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I was going to call this “The Problem with Goal setting” and I thought that was too negative for me – and for you.  And let’s be honest, we already know the problem with goal setting.  The problems are obvious:

1. We don’t have time or energy to set goals
2. We set goals but we haven’t attained them yet
3. The goals seem too hard, challenging, expensive, demanding or far off
4. We set them – but we just don’t want them anymore
5. We keep procrastinating…over and over
6. No one believes in our goal so why should we?
7. Wait, we are supposed to have goals?

 
Many of us know exactly the problem with goals so I think we have that covered. But, how do we overcome all or any of those “factors” and attain our goals?
 
The secret as I promised you is very simple but it is multi-faceted.  Goals are sneaky. They seem straight forward and positive, and sometimes they truly are quick to attain. But the big goals, the life changing and life affirming goals seem to take a little longer, even a life time.
 
The big issue with goals too of course is that we really don’t know how long we have. I was listening to Tom Petty this morning, and it felt strange as he passed away unexpectedly recently.  I realized what a huge body of work the man created in his 66 years of life.  We didn’t know he would be gone so soon, but now that he is I am grateful that during his life he churned out so much incredible music.   He partnered with many other incredible musicians and singers and made memorable music for decades.
 
My point here is that if you have a song in you, or a book, or a business or a relationship…you better get on it. We don’t know how much time we have to do it.
 
I am not being fatalistic but a goal also has a life span. If we don’t act on the goal, then often, it leaves us. Or we leave it.
 
So here is the secret.   Goals are not “things” but they living, breathing entities.  If we do not tend to them, like all living things they will leave us or die.  
We think of goals of something abstract when in fact they are very real. We treat goals as if they are optional and they will be. 
 
If we really have an aim, a desire, a goal then we have to create definable tasks and objectives to move us towards our goal.
 
Let’s play a game.  Think of a goal you have and you are clear that you want it. Now, go through this list and identify what resources you have committed to getting this goal?
 

• TIME
• MONEY
• SUPPLIES/TOOLS?
• SKILL
• FOCUS  (MULTITASKING IS LIKE DRUNK DRIVING – so stop)
• STAGES OF CONCEPTION, DESIGN, FAILURE, ADAPTION, MANIFESTATION
• CONSISTENT ATTENTION OVER TIME
• A SPACE FOR THIS GOAL TO LIVE

 
If you haven’t identified your goal or aim of your ambition or desires, then you probably are not focused in going towards this. 

Imagine we are going on a trip and I say “Oh, great. Where are we going? I will pack!”  (I would say something very like that.  And you say “I don’t know, but we will go West…”  I am going to really struggle to pack, to plan to even go with you and to commit to your trip.
 
Your goal is the same way.  It’s not going anywhere until you appear to know where you are going and when.
 
It may sound dull but the details are the key.  The specifics will set you free.
 
What are you willing to do to get your goal? And when are you willing to do it? And where?
 
If you really WANT something, you should have it. You deserve the very best so give yourself the best possible resources to succeed. And you will.
 
That is the secret. 
 
Let me know how you are doing with your goals! 
 
Love to you on your journey,
 
Nadia